EMBRACE YOUR FEMININE ENERGY AND EXUDE SELF CONFIDENCE IN 2021⎮ 6 SIMPLE STEPS TO GET STARTED!!

Every Woman loves to looks and feel beautiful. But not all women embrace their femininity. Believe it or not, Charming and Attractive Women are like Magnets. When you express Respect for others while Loving yourself, that is the definition of Femininity.  

Femininity isn’t defined by what you have (such as luxury goods, a big house or fancy clothes) ,it’s truly about Your Self Worth and Confidence and How you Care and Treat others. 

Everyone possesses both Feminine and Masculine Energy, but the ratio on how much you

have depends on each individual and if you are seeking ways on How to Become More Feminine, nine times out ten, you are already predominantly feminine, you are simply seeking ways to Enhance your Femininity.

Here are a few steps that you can take to Embrace your Femininity. 

1. Self Care that you can Wear

Hair 

When styling your hair, explore styles that are realistic. You could try by wearing your hair down or having some add on extensions that have a nice bouncy curl. Styling your hair in a cute high bun or even braids is another tip to accomplish beautiful and realistic styles. Natural hair tones (such as Black, Brown, Auburn, Blondes) are great to wear, they are believable, yet still very warm and endearing for the every day Woman that embraces her Femininity.

Nails

When you think of your hands and feet, you want to make sure that you are presenting yourself in a manner were hygiene always comes to the forefront. Having clean nails that are nicely groomed  

and polished. This will let everyone know, that you not only take your hygiene seriously, but you truly are embracing your feminine side. 

 

If you were to go on a job interview, the very first thing that you might do when greeting the interviewer, is shake their hand or hand them your resume. Believe it or not, they will look at your hands and nails, and if you have chipped nail polish or nails that need to be filled in or clipped, they are automatically judging you. They may have a thought like “I wonder if she will perform this job the way she maintains her nails?”.

It can seem somewhat shallow,unfortunately that is the downfall of first impressions. Personally, dirty nails are a pet peeve of mine from any gender. 

Taking the additional steps to keep your nails nicely groomed, (whether your adding a nude or blush pink polish or you have a french tip or acrylic nails) is never a bad thing, and will make you feel really good. Finally, if you prefer not to wear anything on your nails, and keep them fully natural, that is perfectly fine. Simply take the time to invest in keeping them nicely clipped, and using a cuticle cream or oil and hand lotion for best results.

Makeup

Makeup should only be used as a way to enhance the beauty that you already possess. 

For special events, I would say Go Glam or Go Home!! Your special someone, may surprise you with an unexpected Date night, or maybe you have a Social event to attend. This is were you pull out all the stops, Lashes, Luxurious extensions, a Bold lipstick, to make the statement of “Yes I am here and I am Fabulous!!”. Each day when you are out and about, a fresh face with wispy lashes, freshly arched brows and a nice gloss or pink lip, is the perfect combo for the everyday makeup look. We are Glameres Gems, so we don’t need much. Femininity is truly our Personality and how we treat others and that overshadows any amount of makeup that we would apply to our Face. 

Clothing

 You want to wear clothes that accentuate what you love most about your body. We don’t have to put it all out there, it is okay to leave some to the imagination. Light cleavage with some pants, or a cute skirt are always great choices when you are out and about. Make sure you have your favorite pair of wedge heels, or pumps to spice up your look, or some cute flats. 

Of coarse for those special nights, such as date nights or social events, definitely pull out all the stops and Go for Glam. 

          

                  Finally, ladies remember, we are the package. We can keep things simple with some dainty jewelry pieces, or a bold necklace and studded earrings. Everyone of us can acknowledge that we have different styles, and whatever your style is,OWN IT!!

2. Parting with the Potty Mouth

Everyone remembers little Ralphie from "A Christmas Story" . The infamous line when he accidentally dropped the tools needed to help his dad fix their flat tire, landed him in some serious trouble. Instead of saying, "Oh Fudge" well you know the rest. Ralphie then ended his evening, unpleasantly washing his mouth out with soap. 

When we practice substituting Vulgar words, with Alternative words it is an easy way to enhance your vocabulary. If you need help with alternative words, google is the best dictionary. There will always be someone that may trigger you with things that they say or do. As Feminine women, we have the Power to control what we think, say, and do. This kind of power can be very intimidating, especially to a person that has not explored their Femininity. It is always best to take the high road. You can still defend yourself if someone was attacking your character or integrity, but there are ways to do this, without stooping to the level of others, that show no respect for themselves and others.

“I can cuss like a sailor, trust me when I tell you, but when you cuss someone out, you are really cussing at yourself. It gives off masculine energy, which is not only off-putting but it displays negativity in it’s highest form.”

Think about it like this, if we verbally defended ourselves against everyone that triggered us, disrespected us and impugned our integrity, we would have some much hatred dwelling within us. We would in turn, become the very person that is attacking us- a toxic person.

Sometimes, Silence is the best way to make a Statement. It is almost always much louder than any words you could ever speak.

3. Say No to Negativity

Letting go of Negativity starts with Y-O-U!! Ladies, we have to stop beating ourselves up so badly. It’s bad enough we have to endure the world, and all that she brings. Recite daily self affirmations. Tell yourself that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL tell yourself YOU ARE STRONG, and if your unhappy with your something about yourself, Write out a Plan and Execute it. Consider what it will take to change it, and how you will go about making those changes. 

This is easier said than done. Weight loss might be something you want to work on. You can achieve weight loss, however, it takes dedication and hard work. Remember, things are only as hard as we make them, and it is ok to leverage help if help is needed. 

We as people, make time for the things that we think are important, so let’s start making ourselves a priority too. YOU ARE IMPORTANT SO TAKE THE TIME SIS TO INVEST IN YOU!!

Distance yourself from people that do not add value to your life. Being in close contact on daily basis, with negatively influenced people can affect how we act and feel. If all they do is gossip about others, 10/10 they will gossip about you. If your always pouring positivity into them, and they are not reciprocating that back, slowly distance yourself, because believe it or not, their problems can start to become your problems and now your are caught in a web of negativity.

Distancing is healthy and it doesn\"t have to be confrontational. While you take the time to remove negative people from immediate circle, or day to day life, you can now focus your time and energy into yourself. Focus on things that are productive and positive. That way you can be a Vessel of Hope to someone in need, that is open to better themselves just as you are.

4. Present yourself Pretty and Polished

The early bird gets the worm!! Each morning Wake up early, have time for yourself to Pray, then Slay. Have a glass of Water, then breakfast with with a cup of tea or coffee. During this time you can also take a quick jog or a mild workout.

Get yourself ready for the day. Although many of us work from home there’s no need to lounge all day in your jammies. You might have to step out of the house quickly to run to the post office or go to the market, so it will be so easy to already be dressed and ready to go . Look nice, polished and presentable, you never know where you will meet your dream guy or a future business partner. When you invest in time management, you will find that your days become more productive and you can accomplish a lot.

Get a Planner or Use your Calendar on your phone. 

A very easy way to stay on track is each week on Sunday afternoons, pick out 5-6 outfits that your going to wear for the week, that way you can grab and go as the days progress. This will be one less thing to worry about. You can apply this same method if you have small children. 

Whenever I freestyle my day, I tend to get overwhelmed. Feelings of Anxiety and Stress will over take my day, because I didn\"t invest my time properly, in preparing for my week. When you take to pre-plan outfits, meals and your schedule, ahead of time, the more time you have later on in the week for YOU.

Again, I am not preaching to the CHOIR here, I am taking these exact steps in my personal life as well.

5. Cleanliness is a part of the Faith

We all have heard “ Cleanliness is next to Godliness. Although it may sound cliche, it’s true. 

Great Hygiene is another way you can Enhance your Self Confidence.

When you look, smell, and feel good, you are more than likely going to start your day off feeling great. When you feel great, that will pour onto everyone that you encounter. Your feminine energy will be so contagious, that everyone will instantly be charmed by you without even knowing you. 

Get a signature scent

I love Perfume. One of my favorite scents is Chanel Mademoiselle. When paired with a nice lotion it is always a go to for me. However, not all perfumes smell the same on each of us, because we all share different chemistry.  

When you get a chance, go to your favorite department store and test out some fragrances on a scent card. Walk around the store while you do some shopping, and then see if you still like that scent. It might be perfect for you. 

If perfumes are too strong for you, or maybe you have allergies, there are Essential Body Oils and Body Mists that you can use as an alternative solution.

Bathe twice a day, morning and night, 

use exfoliant at least twice weekly on your body, hands 

and feet to keep them soft.

Lather your body with your favorite lotion or body oil and remember the best way to take care of your Body & Skin is staying hydrated by drinking a lot of water. 

When cleaning your body isolate yourself from your spouse and kids. Light a candle and soak in tub full of bubbles, with a glass of wine. You could even read a book, or watch your favorite show. It is so therapeutic and needed at least twice monthly. Treat yourself with quality time spent from you with you. 

6. Smile it is Contagious

Imagine walking into a store to go and pick out a new purse and pair of shoes for an upcoming event, and as soon as you enter you are greeted by the sales clerk and she has bright eyes and a big smile on her face eager to assist you will all of your shopping needs.

How would that make you feel? Personally, I would feel like my guard is down and I would be open to any suggestions that she recommends and building rapport with her. This kind of Feminine energy is so contagious, contagious to a point that once your shopping experience ends at the store, you are more than likely going to Pay it forward at your next encounter.

You never know what someone is going through, and it is always nice to be nice. This example that I have shared is highest form of Feminine energy. It is not superficial and doesn\"t require material assets or makeup, hair, and nails. It is being human and having a genuine care and passion for others.

At some point, we as women have all experienced our "Inner Celie" .

Were we allowed something or someone take the life out of us, so badly, that we lost our smile, our self worth, and what we value.

Fortunately, for Celie after years or pain and suffering at the hands of her terrible husband she experienced friendship in it\"s truest form and was able to find herself again and she found her smile again. For most of us we may or may not get that chance, so instead of Praying for someone to pour value back into us, we might find that we are all we have. But there is POWER in finding yourself by yourself, that is were you will uncover deep truths and with Prayer, Meditation and Self-Affirmations, you WILL FIND YOUR SMILE AGAIN.

This was a lengthy post but there is no quick fix for Starting your Feminine Journey or Getting on a Self Love Journey to find yourself. This is a Lifestyle change. We as women are Beautiful beings, we Mother the Earth, are Entrepreneurs, and so much more. While we are out saving the world and all of her troubles we sometimes forget about us. 

Loving yourself and taking time for yourself does not make you Self-ish, or Self-Centered, it makes you Self-Less because all the time you take to pour into yourself with spill over on to others that we encounter.

Thank you so much for Gathering with me Gems. Please make sure you leave comments down below and share this post to help other women that are seeking tips on how to Start their Feminine Journey have access to as much information as possible.

Sending love and virtual hugs to you all.

Warm Regards,

Glameres Gems